Guys hate being told what to do. It’s a fact. No one knows why, but that’s just the way it is. Maybe it has something to do with our mothers telling us what to do when we were little. We also hate confrontation, arguing and being judged. And we especially hate the "do this or else" mentality that a lot of women have these days. Many men feel that being told what to do attacks their sense of independence and forces them into a role they don’t want to play.

So instead of telling your guy "it’s been two years, marry me or else", try something a little more inviting like "hey, baby, I love you so much that I think I want to be with you forever and I want to marry you." You are not asking for an order, you are inviting him into a shared future. When you speak from love instead of pressure, he can hear your desire without feeling like he is being cornered.

Option #2 is going to get you a lot further with your guy than putting his back up against a wall and ordering him to do something that’s probably not going to make him happy anyway. When you approach him with love, whatever you want becomes something inviting and appealing, but when you give him an ultimatum and tell him he has to do something, suddenly you’ve become like his mother scolding him when he was younger. Words matter because they decide whether he feels led or controlled.

And no guy wants that! When you use soft, open‑ended language you respect his autonomy and give him space to want the same thing you do. He can still say no, but you treat him like an adult who can choose, not like a boy who has to be told what to do. This approach builds connection instead of conflict and makes long‑term commitments like marriage feel like shared dreams, not punishments or demands.